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Below are some selected and recent testimonials from our members on the support they have been provided by TCF NSW and its various Chapters across NSW.


Murwillumbah Chapter Leader Retires

"It was an unexpected announcement followed by many a tear! But I personally, was not surprised that Lorraine recently retired as Murwillumbah's Chapter Leader.

Since 1998, I have worked closely with Lorraine, witnessing her passion and determination to continue her work with Compassionate Friends. In recent years, there were times, whilst experiencing health problems, I was sure Lorraine would have to 'hang up her tissue box'. But at the end of each year, she would say quietly to me, "I will continue next year". And each year, I would think quietly "this lady is heaven sent".

Lorraine has taught us all so much and remains as a phone contact for TCF in New South Wales and Queensland and no doubt, she will lend an ear to many more bereaved parents. Through her book 'Mick ... Send me a Butterfly', Lorraine has touched and talked with many read-ers. And as Lorraine said at our Luncheon, 'I may not be able to walk too well, but I can still talk'! Lots of laughter followed her remark, as it is well known, that a two-hour conversation is not uncommon when Lorraine is talking to the bereaved.

We all know there is usually a quiet team member behind our volunteers in TCF. Lorraine's husband Barry has been the 'invisible helper' working behind the scenes, assisting in the setting up for meetings in their home. Each month, we would
nestle into their cosy comfy lounge room, complete with family photos and of course lots of butterflies scattered here and there in some form or another. Many times, up to fourteen of us would squeeze around the dining table for lunch – there was always room for one more! What a beautiful atmosphere for a compassionate friends meeting.

Thanks must go to Lorraine and Barry for opening their home and hearts for the past twenty-one years."

Ian & Judy, Murwillumbah Chapter

A Valuable Weekend

"On behalf of the four members of our chapter who attended the TCF Residential Weekend in Canberra, we would like to thank everyone involved in the organisation of what was a truly valuable weekend. It was great to renew acquaintances and make new ones, as well as to take away new insights and empathy from the variety of speakers. As always, love, warmth and fellowship let us know, we are indeed not alone on our journey. Our congratulations and thanks to everyone involved."

Kathy, Young Chapter

Thanks for your Support

"I was wondering how to tell everyone concerned with the "Focus" and anniversary card sent to me, how much appreciation I feel. I realise you all know how I feel but as one who has not had the support I would have expected, it is so reassuring that I am not the only person who can endure such pain. I do not cry every day now as I did for the first five years but the pain is now manageable as we learn to live with it.

When someone asks how many children I have, I answer I had five but no one picks up on the word 'had' and five will remain with me forever and that is OK. I send love to you all who have used your grief to help others and want you to know it does."


An Inspirational Workshop

"Just a short thank you to you [Jenny Wandl] & all of the other organisers of the workshop @ Mary Mackillop Place in North Sydney that my wife Shirley & I attended last Weekend. What an inspirational & spiritual experience it was for us both. We are only 5 short years on the 5th of September into our journey of grief & I/we say that it is a journey we would rather not be on but unfortunately we are. It's people like yourself & TFC that make that journey a little easier to be on. We know that we are not alone.

Best wishes & keep up the excellent work."

Shirley & Ian {the class clown}

Thanks to those at the York Street Centre

"I would like to say a warm and grateful thank you to all of the people who take phone calls at the TCF centre. I remember many years ago when I rang TCF in Sydney for the very first time, nervous and vulnerable...At the time I was filled with guilt for not 'doing grief' as everyone expected me to. It was such a relief to hear the kind words, 'Don't worry about what other people tell you to do. Sometimes just getting out of bed and showering is all a mother can do. That's OK.' I thought, 'Ah someone understands!' Thank you to each one of you as you offer understanding and caring in TCF."

Heather, Inverell Chapter Leader